“An honest person will NEVER understand the behavior of a dishonest person as it is not their nature.”
Welcome to the Aspen Center for Empowerment and Healing weekly blog, where we will focus on the true meaning of self-love and how to clear toxic relationships from your life with ease and grace.
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“If you want to grow, no one can STOP you. If you don’t want to grow, nobody can HELP you.”- Sri Amma Bhagavan
The Great Awakening – Seeing through the Veils of Illusion
The time is NOW. The veils of illusion are being lifted and YOU are being called to take a stand and live your truth. What would your life be like if your relationships were loving, supportive and based in integrity? What does it mean to be in your integrity? This was the one that really stumped me when it was brought to my attention. I always thought of myself as being in my integrity…doing the right thing even when no one was looking. There is another way to view this as well… when we are not HONEST with ourselves, we are NOT in our integrity as we are always doing things for reasons that are not congruent to who we truly are. As I became aware of my pattern of people pleasing (read more in Time to Own Your Superpowers) it became clear that I was NOT in my integrity. I would say YES when I wanted to say NO. I would do things for validation and approval, as well as fear of abandonment. This is a very intense pattern that was running my life. Two things really stood out for me during this journey of my own awakening to my true self:
- A friend had said to me repeatedly through my journey in awakening to my own truth: “You are a good actress.” This had taken me aback, as I didn’t see it as acting. I believed the lies I told myself. The pattern can be difficult to SEE and there is great resistance when our fear of survival is triggered. I want to say that I had GREAT leverage to change, as what I was living felt like “Groundhog Day”- the same day over and over. I was READY to change!
- Someone very dear to my heart let me know; how can I trust your word when you are not in your personal integrity? This was HUGE for me. It hit me DEEP and at my core, I was stopped in my tracks and could no longer lie to myself. I would never want this person to feel that way about me and now in my own awareness, I wouldn’t want to lie to myself as it only separates me from me. This has NOW become the foundation for my relationships and one of the greatest GIFTS I received on my own healing journey. As I cleared the energy blocks that prevented me from SEEING into my pattern of fear programming, I was then able to SEE it in others. It became a compass for navigating my relationships and the work I do in the world.
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Our relationships are the foundation to living a joyful and abundant life and when our relationships are not supporting us we must first STOP and look inside. Are you loving yourself, supporting yourself and in your personal integrity? Social conditioning has trained us over generations to shun who we truly are and as we compete with and compare ourselves to others. This creates a separation from our true authentic self. What are your GIFTS? What makes you proud of YOU? Celebrate yourself, there is ONLY one you and you have so many gifts to bring to the world. What Boundaries have you established? Our family expectations of what we SHOULD or SHOULDN’T do can create guilt, shame and fear. Remember: Don’t ‘Should’ on yourself.
Let’s take a deeper look at family expectations and social conditioning. Social conditioning is the process of training individuals in society to have certain beliefs, behaviors, desires and emotional reactions, which are approved by society in general. Social conditioning begins when you’re just a small baby, and it’s most severe throughout your childhood and adolescence, but it goes on your entire life. It’s carried out by parents, teachers, peers and people in your community, as well as, social media and various types of public broadcasting. You can see how breaking free from these ingrained belief systems can be quite challenging as we are taking down old programs. Social conditioning often works by rewarding certain behaviors, thus reinforcing them, and punishing other behaviors. But the most noteworthy method of social conditioning is the repetition of the same simple messages, sometimes thousands of times over long periods, especially by perceived authority figures, until the mind absorbs them.Once established in our programing, it is difficult to break free.
“Fortune Favors the Bold”
How do we see through the masks of our own self-deceptions? Usually we will repeat the same patterns until we start to ask some different questions. Our outer life is a mirror to our subconscious beliefs based on social conditioning and family expectations. This patterning is what continues to bring us the same experiences but with different people. Our human (ego) is SO creative when it comes to our identity.
The ego is a veil between what you think you are and what you actually are. It is made up of the illusion of the mind. The False Mask.
You must want to break free from the illusion of the False Mask, as the spell of the ego enslaves us to our own limited beliefs and fears. This journey can and will release you from living a life that is based in fear to expanding you into your limitless, powerful self-expression: Your AUTHENTIC SELF.
You have to be willing to let go of who you have been to become who you were meant to be.
On my own personal journey, I went to visit a friend of the family who was at the “end of life” stage of their life. There is something powerful that happens to the individual when they reach this stage. It’s as if the False Mask gets removed. If that person did not live their life according to their Divine Plan (their soul’s calling), the sadness of a life unlived is all encompassing and riddled with regret. Removing False Masks takes commitment and dedication as the resistance can be overwhelming, but in my own experience with energy work, I have discovered the path of least resistance.
Check out my “Free to Me Empowerment Program” that is designed to take you through this journey with ease and grace. No one can do this for you, there is no magic pill, it is a self-initiated process (you MUST want to change). I had a lot of leverage to support me to let go of who I was NOT. I was constantly repeating the same story with different people. When I sat in the sadness of my friends end of life experience, it became the driving force to let go of living the false me and step into my Empowered Self! I just could not imagine getting to the end of my life and wishing I would have done it differently. There are no guarantees and when you wake up and realize your life is not bringing you JOY, then it’s time to take action! This is YOUR life after all!
“What the caterpillar calls the end of the world the master calls a butterfly” – Richard Bach
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The Narcissist, PTSD and Healing
Most people who experience narcissistic abuse have difficulty getting anybody to understand what they are going through, let alone understand it for themselves. It’s one thing to understand physical abuse and we have a better awareness of verbal abuse and controlling behavior. But to try to understand the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)’s subtle, crazy-making, type of slow destruction of the human psyche is a whole other ball game. In some extreme cases, victims of the NPD’s maneuvers suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder.
I will ALWAYS say, “An honest person will NEVER understand the behavior of a dishonest person as it is not their nature”
You may never understand the behavior, but we can learn to FEEL when something is not right. How can we FEEL when something is not right? Clearing your energy body is the first and most important thing you can do. When our energetic field is out of balance it triggers emotional, mental or physical imbalances that lead to physical manifestations, such as temporary disorders, disease or even chronic conditions as well as keeping us disconnected from our Internal Guidance System. When we are in relationships with NPD, our physical and emotional health is greatly impacted as the Narcissist will use all they learned about you to get into your psychology and plant seeds of doubt that over time separates you from YOU. The narcissist is a wolf in sheep’s clothing and can look very good to most people. They can be good looking, charming, charismatic, successful and put on a great presentation for others, but they are master manipulators of words and they use their intellect to create an illusion of trust. In my own observation of this controlling behavior, one thing the NPD will do is keep you in a consistent state of confusion.
Underneath their calm exterior is an insecurity that feeds on others by controlling and dominating their closest relationships through practices like gas lighting, love bombing, pathological lying, undermining and many other emotionally destructive methods.
They will promise you the world and they will give you JUST enough that you believe them. On one end they will praise you and in the next their actions will say something else. They will do whatever it takes to get you to BLEND your life into theirs, as that gives them greater control and power over you. It is not EASY to unravel a life that has been enmeshed with this person, but YOUR freedom and health depend on it. When I say “Fortune Favors the Bold”, I mean that it takes a brave leap of faith to take your power back from the Narcissist and heal your physical, mental and emotional body. We did not come here to play small, to live in the shadow of another or to live out our family’s expectations of what we should or shouldn’t do. We came here to be true to ourselves, to release the fear programs and step into our TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF! This is YOUR life and it’s up to you to do whatever it takes to release the programs and beliefs that are keeping you from your dreams.
“The Awakening in Consciousness is the next Evolutionary step for Mankind” – Eckhart Tolle
Weekly Empowerment Forecast
5/7/2018 – 5/13/2018
The Collective Whole – What is going on
Trusting in the Divine Plan
The Divine Order is integrated in every person and every situation. It can sometimes be extremely difficult to remember that there is a Divine Plan at work in our lives. In fact, it has been said that if we could just relax into it, there is no way that Life would not take us to our most Divine Destiny.
Trust that the Divine is working in and through all people and situations to bring forth the Highest and Best Good for all concerned.
This is a very auspicious time on Earth as we are ALL collectively going through a metamorphosis. On a planetary note, Pluto and Saturn have gone retrograde and this will bring out your Inner Warrior. It is time to look back to see what is congruent with our truth and what is not. Living in the New Earth Reality of Divine Love means that we are all being called to heal the past, take our power back and live life from a place of Self-Love and Self-Empowerment. Follow your heart as it WILL lead the way. It is an important time to be mindful of your emotions and reactions as they are guiding you to look at what is triggering you and know that the Divine is working through you as you wake up to our own personal truth.
If you are triggered in anyway, STOP and look at the deep patterns that are coming to the surface for healing. You have ALL you need to work through what is no longer serving you. Energy work, healers, coaches and therapists, are all there to assist you in this transformation. In my own experience, I used all my resources as I continue to work with my Team of Light.
The journey may be filled with challenges, but the reward of growing is PRICELESS. I am living life on MY TERMS and it is amazing! As you learn to navigate these intense energy shifts, you will be aligned with the Divine and supported in ways that are hard to comprehend. Every day, I am absolutely in AWE as I stand and watch the details of my life take shape in ways that I could not have planned. On the other side if this personal inner journey is the life of your DREAMS. Spend some time getting clear about what your life would be like if there were no limitations. What kind of relationships do you want? What is calling your soul to action? Get into nature, go for a walk, meditate, learn to live your life from the inside out. Take care of you and watch the magic unfold. We really did come here to live “Heaven on Earth.”
Set your Intention to expand your awareness and trust that you are guided to heal what is no longer serving your highest and best good. Intend to allow the Divine to circulate love through your energy system as you radiate from your heart.
Thank you Divine for lifting my thoughts and intentions into the highest vibration possible for me at this time. May I remember that Source is working to bring Divine Order into the world. Please send blessings of Divine Love into all situations that are needing Light to be uplifted. Thank you for blessing us all with Divine Light and surrounding each and everyone of us with Love as we heal and release what no longer serves us with ease and grace.
Intend that every breath you take is blessed by the light of true understanding so that your heart can shine Divine Love into the world at all times.
Until next week.
With a grateful heart,
Lisa xo
