Healing from Toxic Relationships

Weekly Empowerment Forecast

4/1/2018 – 4/8/2018

“An honest person will NEVER understand the behavior of a dishonest person as it is not their nature.”

Welcome to the Aspen Center for Empowerment and Healing’s weekly blog where we will focus on the true meaning of self-love and how to clear toxic relationships from your life with ease and grace. I will take you through healing from toxic relationships and shine a light on the true meaning Narcissistic Personality Disorder plays in your life.

“Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help and brave enough to ask for it.”

-Zaid K. Abdelnour

The Divine within you had a plan and LOVE is the key

What if every experience you ever had is there to open your heart to love?  What if you were the person writing the whole script? Every painful, hurtful, life experience was there to create the person YOU came here to be. I know this can be difficult to hear, but I need you to listen with your heart not your head. Your human (ego) will want to challenge you on this as it will argue…why would I do that to myself?……why would I put myself through all the heartache and pain? First, lets take a deeper look at love.  I am not talking about conditional love (I love you if you do this, or that, or behave a certain way, etc.…) I am talking about Unconditional love. Love without judgements or conditions of any kind. Our social conditioning teaches us to love with conditions. If we behave a certain way, we get praise, love and validated.  To understand unconditional love, our soul set up experiences to learn how to love unconditionally. The Divine Plan.

My Will or Divine Will

I grew up in a family that Narcissistic Personality Disorder was the overall theme. Surrounded by behavior that left me feeling alone and in pain most of my childhood and well into my adult life. It is very confusing when you are constantly receiving mixed messages….one minute everything is good and the next it feels like a war zone. I spent the better part of my early life, walking on eggshells and adjusting my behavior to get love. If I could do enough, be enough and love enough, then it would All be okay.  It wasn’t until my son was born that the veil of illusion was lifted. A series of events took place to illuminate the path I was on and I immediately established boundaries with my family. I read everything there was to read about NPD and went into a state of DEEP FEAR.  The divine guiding me each step of the way. Every person and experience that followed was there to support me on my journey, but it was ALWAYS up to me to take the action steps. It was not easy to establish boundaries without guilt, fear, and shame. NPD knows no boundaries. My life started to make more sense as I became clearer.

The Moment Everything Changed

Twice in my life I felt divine love and each time my soul ignited a healing journey that opened my heart. The first time was when my son was born and the second was a divine reunion which ignited the disconnect I felt from my own self. Magic of the divine guiding every step of my way. Surrender was the key. I couldn’t see it from my human as I would get stuck in judgement, fear, and shame but through the eyes of my soul I could SEE it all so clearly. Forgiveness of myself and others was the ONLY way out of the pain. When I began to embrace the gift of my experiences and embrace the suffering, denial, judgement of self and others, I began to change what I attracted into my life. The pain that I experienced became my light shining the path before me to my soul purpose. You see, when I was in deep fear of what I learned when I studied all I could about NPD, any information on the positive aspects were limited to say the least. YES, it is important to understand the behavior of NPD so that you know how to take your power back from situations like these that are complicated and manipulative. I will always say, “an honest person will NEVER understand the behavior of a dishonest person as it is not their nature” so, information helps to make things a bit clearer, but the truth is, YOU set it up and YOU can also heal it.

Download the Freedom from Narcissistic Abuse Help Kit as this free download has an energy cleanse tool that will raise your vibration and align you with your higher self, so you are no longer a match to abusive relationships.

Master of Illusion – The Magician

I want to share a story that has been around for a very long time. It came to me in a dream over many nights as I was going through my dark night of the soul, which, lasted well over a year. As I studied this story, so many awareness’s around NPD were highlighted. I knew I needed to incorporate this story in this week’s blog as it started to show up very clearly this week as NPD is being highlighted on a grand scale. (Check out Dr. Christine Northrup’s FB posts) First, let me say that this story has SO MANY meanings and applies to so many aspects of various forms of NPD and it’s mirror back to YOU. Take what resonates and leave the rest behind.

 

The Emperor’s New Clothes

Once upon a time there was an emperor whose only interest in life was to dress up in fashionable clothes. He kept changing his clothes so that people could admire him.

Two thieves decided to teach him a lesson.

They told the emperor that they were very fine tailors and could sew a lovely new suit for him. It would be so light and fine that it would seem invisible. Only those who were stupid could not see it. The emperor was very excited and ordered the new tailors to begin their work.

One day, the king asked the prime minister to go and see how much work the two tailors had done. He saw the two men moving scissors in the air, but he could see no cloth! He kept quiet for fear of being called stupid and ignorant. Instead, he praised the fabric and said it was marvelous.

Finally, the emperor’s new dress was ready. He could see nothing, but he too did not want to appear stupid. He admired the dress and thanked the tailors. He was asked to parade down the street for all to see the new clothes. The emperor paraded down the main street. The people could only see a naked emperor, but no one admitted it for fear of being thought stupid.

They foolishly praised the invisible fabric and the colors. The emperor was very happy.

At last, a child cried out, “The emperor is naked!”

Soon everyone began to murmur the same thing and very soon all shouted, “The emperor is not wearing anything!” The emperor realized the truth but preferred to believe that his people were stupid.

When dealing with NPD it is important to say that this person is charming, charismatic, intelligent and puts their attention on reading and learning about human behavior. They target you based on your beliefs, desires, compassion, and empathy as well as the magnetic attraction that brings them into your life. Our human (ego) will do everything in its power to avoid seeing this clearly. It is not an easy journey to call yourself out on your false persona, but your freedom and liberation depends on it. When we love our shadow and embrace our hidden aspects, we can then heal and release this pattern. Within any problem is the seed of it’s solution.

The Collective Whole – What is going on?

April is going to be a game changer as we enter a whole new energy for 2018. The first part of this year has been cleaning up unresolved issues from the past and getting clear about what is no longer working in our lives. March was loaded with life situations that allowed us to either feel victim to our circumstances or empowered to stand in our truth, depending on where you were in your awakening. The collective whole was feeling a depletion as we were forced into a deep healing on an energetic level. Sleep was all we could do at times. In April there will be a need for balance as the energy will be a push pull that can bring about feelings of being scattered and confused. The more you can find your center and stay connected to yourself, the easier it will be to find patience and allow things to unfold in their own timing.  This energy report is to support you when you feel out of balance and sensitive to the changes taking place on a global scale but remember…… You always have free will, never give your power away. If this resonates then use it support you if not release it and let it go.

I set my intention to forgive myself for anyone that I may have harmed in anyway. I forgive myself for any pain I may have brought to myself or another.

Dear Divine,

I wish to have the solution to the problem in front of me and the ones to follow that I don’t even know about, and in ways that I cannot conceive. I trust you, divine for this.  So be it and so it is!

Until next week.

With a grateful heart,

Lisa xo