Time to own your Superpowers

“An honest person will NEVER understand the behavior of a dishonest person as it is not their nature.”

Welcome to the Aspen Center for Empowerment and Healing weekly blog, where we will focus on the true meaning of self-love and how to clear toxic relationships from your life with ease and grace.

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“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life, in this moment, are precisely the ones needed in this moment. There is hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your evolution” – Deepak Chopra

Pleasing Others: Learning to say “NO” is a form of Self-Love

What is the true meaning of people pleasing? People pleasing is when we serve others at our own expense, when we override our own intuition, desires and feelings to please another. The issue is that the people pleaser’s have a subconscious program running that drives this behavior, so it is undetected by the pleaser, as the payoff is filling a void within. For me, the payoff was a DEEP subconscious program of abandonment. There really are no words for the intensity of what this was really all about, but narcissists magnetizes to this pattern as it feeds their ego for years when undetected.

A People Pleaser is one of the nicest and most helpful people you know.  You can always count on them. They spend a great deal of time doing things for other people; helping others with their work, making all the plans, and always there for family and friends. It sounds like a good thing, but, unfortunately, it can be an extremely unhealthy pattern of behavior.  When all our time is spent taking care of other people, we abandon ourselves.

What is the payoff for People Pleasers?   

One of the subconscious programs is a deep-rooted FEAR of rejection. Fear of rejection is the underlying feeling that, “if I don’t do everything to make this person happy they might leave.” This usually is a pattern that was established in early childhood relationships, which LOVE was conditional or where a child was abandoned either physically or emotionally. Children of Narcissistic Abuse will tend to go in one of two directions: they either take on the traits of the abuser and become narcissists themselves, or they take on the role of the People Pleaser. In my own experience as a child born into a family of NPD, I was a people pleaser for as long as I can remember, and the NPD was my magnet.

One of our Superpowers is to break this cycle and take our power back! How do we break the cycle? Great question! My own journey was not easy. On a soul level, I attracted relationships and life experiences to teach me these patterns and it was PAINFUL. But, if you read my post Healing from Toxic relationships: A Love Story I talk about ‘Alchemy of the Soul’ and this is where my transformation began. I manifested an experience that brought this deep-rooted subconscious program to light after it had me trapped for most of my life. It sparked my Dark Night of the Soul journey as I was faced with what felt like all-encompassing abandonment, debilitating FEAR and I was unsure I could make it through to the other side. This is the Alchemical Healing Journey of turning ‘lead into gold’. As I sat in the deep feelings of abandonment, I was able to integrate my Soul into my Human. The divine guided my path and I discovered the healing magic of energy work.

I’m now grateful to be able to support others through their own empowerment, bypassing this intense journey, as I can share the gifts of Energy Healing. Check out my Activation & Awakening program, which will assist you in this transformation with ease and grace. There are ways to heal that are not as painful as my own experience, but you MUST take the action steps and do the work. YOUR soul came here to live the Divine Code of Love and you will be the one to manifest situations that heal what is keeping you from LOVE.

“Live life as if everything is rigged in your favor” – Rumi

What is the narcissists Kryptonite? Discovering your Superpowers

There is quite a bit of information that you can read about on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but my intention is to bring awareness to how to heal from this experience and use it to become the person you were born to be. What I have discovered on this healing journey is that to truly understand the behavior of NPD, storytelling seems to be the only way to truly capture the essence of how manipulative and cunning the NPD can be. The vision that continues to come into my mind is how elders in Indigenous Tribes share stories to teach and on my own path it was what created the awareness for me.

So, let me share a story…

After my son was born, I went through a spiritual awakening that allowed me to SEE into this behavior. I didn’t know how to deal with the situation that I was in and so I decided to study all I could to empower myself. I worked to create positive change in my life. I new that if I could change my vibration things in my life would improve, what I later came to understand, “you cannot put a happy sticker on an empty gas tank”  and eventually  I had to take action to make some changes. Unaware of the many faces that make up the NPD, I found myself cowering down and looking to avoid the NPD at all costs. I was in a deep state of fear as the NPD would do things to intentionally scare me. The narcissist was using my deepest FEARS to gain control, to get me to submit.

I’ve worked hard to understand the many benefits of this experience, and one was I was given the opportunity to heal the deep fear that lived inside. What a GIFT! Each time I was debilitated in fear, I called on the Divine to guide my way, which created a TRUST in the magic of what is possible. People, situations and support came in ALL forms. As I cleared my own patterns of fear, I was able to listen to the voice of Divine Guidance within me.

The transformation to own my Self-Empowerment as I addressed each situation that scared me with Love was the key to my freedom. Self-Empowerment, Self-Love and Self-Respect are Kryptonite to the NPD. How do we face the situations in our lives that scare us with LOVE? Forgiveness is the key. Forgiving ourselves for bringing this situation upon ourselves. Forgiving each person that you judged, manipulated or blamed. Your life is a mirror to your own unloved hidden aspects and self-love is what will change your experience. On a soul level, I believe we set ourselves up this way to heal deep core wounds. Trust in the journey and Trust in YOU.

Weekly Empowerment Forecast

4/22/2018 – 4/29/2018

“When your soul calls, you must listen”

The Collective Whole – What is going on

As we navigate this powerful year( in numerology, this year has the vibration of the number 11 which is a master number for change and transformation) our soul is calling to us to clear the energy of the past. The easiest way to transform the past is to love  and embrace it. What we resist persists. Your soul is calling and it’s time to listen. As we make the changes that align us to our new lives, it is natural to have a deep feeling of sadness and grief as we are no longer congruent to the person we once were. Honor that and do a ritual to celebrate the person you used to be as you rebirth your authentic self.

This week the energies will be supportive in aligning you to the highest and most positive outcomes to take place, so, whatever the situation may be, know that everything will be OK.

This energy is also very helpful for starting new projects, relationships, and creative endeavors. The focus will be on building a solid foundation during this time, so set your intentions to be guided to do whatever needs to happen to fill your life with JOY.

Pay attention to things that align you with your connection to the divine; the birds singing, the calm of being in nature, the awareness of how your sacred breath connects you to everything, a message from a friend…

The most important things in life are the ones that feed our Soul the most.

When our Soul is fed completely, our energy flows at 100%. We are peace. We are open, clear, inspired and available for all the blessings the Universe has in store for us. 

It is my intention to feel Divine Love filling my heart and soothing away the fears of my mind. I will trust in the Divine to guide me to life experiences that bring me JOY.

I accept that I don’t have the answers to releasing the fear that I am experiencing, so I call upon the Divine to work through me on my behalf. I surrender to the Divine to guide my way. So be it and so it is.

Until next week.

With a grateful heart,

Lisa xo