Healing From Toxic Relationships – Surrender and Letting Go Part 1

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Hello, everyone. This is Lisa Wilson with the Aspen Center for Empowerment and Healing. Thank you so much for being here today.

In this video, I want to talk about the seventh and final stage of healing from toxic relationships. First, let me just recap.

The first stage is awareness. The second stage is forgiveness. The third stage is learning to be alone. The fourth stage is your connection to the Divine. The fifth stage is getting clear on what you want. The sixth stage is really understanding and dialing in what you want in relationships. And the seventh and final stage is surrender and letting go.

Why are surrender and letting go so necessary and important? What does that mean?

Anytime we're trying to hold on to an idea, a person, and even an expectation, we're operating from a “lack” mentality, from a belief system that we have to cling on to something, or there isn't enough of it, or it's not going to come in. 

Anytime we're trying to hold on to an idea, a person, and even an expectation, we're operating from a “lack” mentality, from a belief system that we have to cling on to something, or there isn't enough of it, or it's not going to come in.

What we're saying not only to yourself but the message that we're vibrationally putting out to the universe is that it's lack, it's not existent. The message you're actually giving is that “it's not really going to happen” or “it's not going to stay or stick.” But that's all subconscious programs.

Anytime we operate from a place of “lack” in our lives, we just get more of what we focus on. And part of this journey and each stage leading up to the next stage is really bringing you back into you.

I'm not talking about just our everyday relationships. We're talking about Divine Soul connections. We're talking about deep soul-level relationships that are built on trust, integrity, self-love, self-empowerment, freedom. These are relationships where we allow each person to show up in the fullness of who they are and where we, ourselves, show up in the fullness of who we are.

These are relationships where we have the freedom to allow the expression and the truth of you without the fear of it dissipating, leaving, or having to hold on so tightly.

So I want to talk a little bit about subconscious programming. With each one of these stages, I have healing videos where you could go in a little deeper to do the energy healing work, where we release the patterns, the programs.

Once we have the awareness and the understanding of what has caused or created our life experiences thus far, it's time to then go in even deeper to do the internal work to heal, transform, and change.

It’s like a computer system. Just because you delete something from your computer doesn't mean that it's gone. You actually have to uninstall the program for that specific program to be removed.

This is what I do in my healing videos where we go in a little deeper. My intention is to make them affordable and accessible to everyone, so that you can dive in and do this work on your own at home very inexpensively. This will bring a significant transformation in your life.

Once we have the awareness and the understanding of what has caused or created our life experiences, it's time to go deeper to do the internal work to heal, transform, and change. 

It's important to understand this journey. But it's absolutely necessary to do the energy healing work around it. This is to significantly see that change and for that change to be anchored in as the new vibrational frequency of where you are now operating from—to raise your vibration and come from a totally different place.

So surrender and letting go are about detaching from the need for a relationship. When you go through the first six stages, not only do you become clear of your own programs and patterns, but you also become clear on what it is you're really looking to receive and create in life.

Once you do that, it becomes the bullseye, the target that you are always saying “yes” to. Once you become so clear, that's your bullseye, that's your target. Everything else is a “no,” except for that bullseye.

So when you get clear on what it is you want in your life and what it is you want in your relationships, everything and anything that shows up that is not that, you get a choice to say “yes” or say “no” to them.

It doesn't have to be with any type of drama or chaos. When you come from the heart, when you really get to know yourself, when you heal these unhealed hidden aspects energetically, when you do this internal work, your heart is wide open.

You can love another no matter who they are and how they show up in this world, and yet it doesn't mean you get to say “yes” to their behavior or that you play with them. You can send them love, and yet still choose to walk away from the situation.

I share that today because it's so necessary to uninstall the old subconscious programs based on our family conditioning, society programming, and pressure from our peers.

That is a key to releasing any type of attachments, so that you can let go and surrender. Because you know that your connection with yourself and that connection to that divine part of yourself is so fulfilling, that you're okay, you're perfect just as you are. You don't need another person to fill your life.

When you come from the heart, when you really get to know yourself, when you heal these unhealed hidden aspects energetically, when you do this internal energy healing work, your heart is wide open

And what happens is, that allows you the freedom to say “yes,” to say “no,” to walk away when it's not right, and to know that your life is beautiful and perfect. And either somebody will step in and show up to take their place, or your life just feels amazing. You're so fulfilled at your core that it's not about another person. That is the ultimate freedom and liberation, and I cannot say enough about it.

So I just want to really say, let's dive into surrender and letting go. Let’s go into some deeper experiences. I'll share some experiences around that. Let's do that in the next video.

Thank you so much for being here, and I'll look forward to diving in a little deeper on the next video. Bye for now.
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