Healing From Toxic Relationships – Relationships – What Is Your Yes? Part 1

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Hello, everyone. This is Lisa Wilson with the Aspen Center for Empowerment and Healing. Thank you so much for being here today.  

In today's video, I want to talk about relationships and how to fine-tune what you say “yes” to when it comes to your relationships.

On this video series that I've been doing, I've been taking you through what I've considered to be the 7 stages that I went through in releasing toxic relationships from my life and fully stepping into my empowerment and what I say “yes” to.

Ultimately, this aligns us to bringing in our quest mates. And if you choose to bring in that soul partner, you align to that as well. So, it really becomes a choice for you.

Let me just discuss for a while the first videos, the first few stages that I talked about. If you haven't seen those videos, I recommend you go back and watch them.

The 1st stage is awareness, and the 2nd stage is forgiveness. The 3rd stage is getting comfortable with being alone, which is such an important stage. They're all very important stages. Each one plays off the other, and they're all in synergy with one another.

The 4th stage is connecting to the Divine. The 5th stage is what sparks your heart—what ignites your soul and getting clear about that.

Now in the 6th stage, we're going to talk about relationships.

Let me just say that those first 5 stages prior to this one are absolutely necessary before you dive into this stage, especially along the path of ascension.

In this stage on relationships, we're now able to recognize patterns and what we say “yes” to in relationships that might have been a “maybe” or a “no.”

To me, this is the path of ascension—when you really ascend into a higher state of consciousness, changing your vibrational frequency.

First, you become aware of what you've said “yes” to and what's no longer a fit.

Then you spend time forgiving yourself and those in your life because anger and resentment are blocks, and we can't move forward until we heal those blocks. So forgiveness is huge.

Then, of course, it's getting comfortable with being alone—I can't say enough about that. You become your own best friend. And the journey to that is not something that you just intellectualize. In order to really receive that at a cellular level, it is a journey.

Through that journey, you awaken to a Divine connection. That becomes so significant in the life that you are here to live.

Then you start to pay attention to what sparks your heart. What's congruent in your life? Are you living the life you were born to live? If not, let's figure out who you really are and what makes you, you.

In this stage on relationships, we're now able to recognize patterns and what we say “yes” to in relationships that might have been a “maybe” or a “no.”

I think Ford was the one who said, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you can't. Either way, you're right.”

The universe always says “yes.” There is no judgement. Only the ego mind judges. The divine mind says “yes” because it's all perfect and it's all there and available to you. And you get to discern what that is for yourself.

So, let's fine-tune with relationships because we could say “yes” to some pretty unacceptable behavior in relationships. This is because we're really good as humans—our ego-self—at validating certain behavior, saying “yes,” and compromising who we are.

For somebody like me who is an empath—a pretty significant empath at that—I could see the joy and the love in everybody's heart. I could thus say “yes” and compromise my own experience or my own value system because I could see the truth of who that person is—a loving and joyful person.

The universe always says “yes.” There is no judgement. Only the ego mind judges. The divine mind says “yes” because it's all perfect and it's all there and available to you. And you get to discern what that is for yourself. 

Yet, having a life experience with them, when they are bringing in their personality and the way they are, doesn't feel so good.

This is why we really have to get clear, and discernment is the key. But how do we do that?

What I love to do is, I take my clients through a journey, a process. We’re going to go through that process now.

When you're ready, you could grab a piece of paper. Stop this video and start to write down your top 20 values—what you value the most and what's important to you.

Sometimes, we just have to write a bunch of things. I know some people do this process by writing down their top 100 because there's so much that they want to get out. You can do this as well. Then, pull out your 20, and out of the 20, pull out the 10 that are the most important to you. Out of those top 10, what are your top 5?

Just to give you an example, included in my top 5 is communication. It is something that is not negotiable for me.

I have to be with somebody who is able to communicate and talk to me about what's going on with them. That is just not negotiable, whether that is a friendship, a significant partner, or people related to my business. And I have to make sure that I am that person too—I have to communicate what's going on with me.

That leads to the next one for me, which is vulnerability. If we can't get vulnerable with one another, then we're not going to have that communication. We're not going to go deep.

Going deep is so important for me. So those are the three included in my top 5—communication, vulnerability, and going deep with one another.

At this stage of my life when I cleared my path and got really comfortable with being alone, I'm not willing to spend time with people in my life that I just can't go deep with because it's just who I am.

I've been on earth for a long time now, and I can say that I've had a lot of friends, acquaintances, and relationships. At this stage of my life when I cleared my path and got really comfortable with being alone, I'm not willing to spend time with people in my life that I just can't go deep with because it's just who I am.

I love to go deep. I can laugh, but I love to go deep, and I'm going to go deep. And if those people in my life aren't willing to go deep with me, then there's not a whole lot we have in common. So that's important to me. It's significantly important to me.

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